Today’s blog provides a question rather than answers. In his book, The Sacred Enneagram, author Christopher L. Heuertz writes that our limitations, destructive patterns, addictions, or other seemingly unpresentable parts are invitations “to return to what wounded us as children so that our eyes may be opened to the gift of who we are and…
Divorce Reimagined
The 5 Step P.L.A.N.S. for a Positive Divorce: Weathering the Storm
“Feare no more the heate o’ th’ Sun, Nor the furious Winter’s rages.” – William Shakespeare As with any devastating storm, your divorce can often leave a path of destruction. Feelings of helplessness and despair regularly take over. Fear prevails. Anger may ensue. Must it be this way? “NO.” Can you avoid it? The answer…
Musing of a Utah Family Law Attorney in Transition – One Year Later
One year ago this month, I stepped into my dream of establishing an integrative family law practice. I made the decision to shift from a litigation model to offering out-of-court resolutions where my clients have the option to work with mental health professionals, financial neutrals, and various other professionals in reaching the best possible outcome…
Seven Frequently Asked Questions About Divorce in Utah
Many of the clients who schedule initial consultations have not made the decision to divorce yet. Often, the client or the client’s spouse has brought up the topic of divorce and my client simply wants to know what his or her options are in the event the couple decides to divorce. Here are answers to…
What is the Difference Between Collaborative Divorce and Mediation?
I cannot count the number of times that prospective clients are shocked to learn that there are ways to divorce or resolve their family law dispute without the nastiness of court. The court system is set up to be adversarial. However, there are ways to resolve your family law dispute amicably without going to court….
Update from the 2nd District Court and In Person Hearings
FROM THE SECOND DISTRICT COMMISSIONERS RE: RESUMPTION OF IN-PERSON HEARINGS WHEN: We are currently contemplating returning to in-person court on September 1, 2021. In-person court can resume if the courts are in Yellow as long as appropriate precautions are taken. If the virus count prompts a return to Red, in-person hearings will only take place…
Financial Planning in Divorce – 5 Steps to Getting Your House in Order
Author and Netflix superstar Marie Kondo says, “When you put your house in order, you put your affairs and your past in order, too.” Nothing could be closer to the truth in divorce— When you put your financial house in order in divorce, you put your affairs and your past in order, too. Here are…
Financial Planning in Divorce – The Family Home
“This being human is a guest house every morning is a new arrival. A joy, a depression, a meanness, some momentary awareness comes as an unexpected visitor. Welcome and entertain them all! Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows, who violently sweep your house empty of its furniture, still, treat each guest honorably. He maybe…
Alimony – To Pay or Not To Pay?
Next to child custody, alimony is the most hotly contested issue if you are divorcing in Utah. Why? Because there is no formula or calculator to determine the amount of alimony. Instead, alimony is based on multiple factors, which can be highly subjective. In Utah, the primary purposes of alimony are (1) to get the…
A Checklist for Divorce Financial Planning
Ten Types of Documents to Gather When Considering Divorce Socrates said, “The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing.” This may be true in life but is extremely damaging in divorce. It is critically important that you take affirmative steps to understand and familiarize yourself with your finances when considering divorce. You will…