Divorce Reimagined

“This being human is a guest house every morning is a new arrival. A joy, a depression, a meanness, some momentary awareness comes as an unexpected visitor. Welcome and entertain them all! Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows, who violently sweep your house empty of its furniture, still, treat each guest honorably. He maybe…

Next to child custody, alimony is the most hotly contested issue if you are divorcing in Utah.  Why? Because there is no formula or calculator to determine the amount of alimony.  Instead, alimony is based on multiple factors, which can be highly subjective.  In Utah, the primary purposes of alimony are (1) to get the…

Ten Types of Documents to Gather When Considering Divorce Socrates said, “The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing.”  This may be true in life but is extremely damaging in divorce.  It is critically important that you take affirmative steps to understand and familiarize yourself with your finances when considering divorce.  You will…

It would be lovely if the starting point of any divorce could be deciding what we want. But more often than not, my first consultation with clients involves questions of survival. Many clients fear what their financial future will look like. They have worked hard to get where they are financially. Divorce presents a sharp…

In the fall of 2020, I found myself in the emergency room.  I thought I was having a heart attack.  Luckily that wasn’t the case but the doctors had no answers for me.  They did not know what was going on.  One mentioned a panic attack. Well, whatever it was, it woke me up.  For…

Growing up in the 70s and early 80s, I did not know anyone whose parents were divorced. My first introduction to “child custody” disputes was from watching Kramer v. Kramer, the 1979 movie where the mom (Meryl Streep) abandons her husband and son but returns after 15 months to claim her child. The custody battle…

Have you ever thought that divorce could be a gift? That the brokenness you may feel when realizing your relationship is over is the beginning stage of transformation? Thirteen and a half years ago, I found myself facing the end of my second marriage. In reality, the marriage had died twelve and a half years…